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Name: KIMBLOSSOM New Member   Title: please tell me what i can do

My situation is pretty confusing but here it is. I have been married for almost 7yrs. About 1 year ago I wanted to separate form my husband as he had been abusive and amongst many other things he was drinking an barely ever helped pay for anything. At that time he agreed to go live in our garage(a very nice 2 story loft that he built with my fathers money). He promised to pay rent and as soon as he could look for his own place. Needless to say he would never leave and when the police were called in for different reasons they really didn’t get involved because they said it was the matrimonial home. I have realized that the only way to get rid of him is to sell the house. My father and I bought the house 50-50 before I was married. My father paid the down payment and his name is on the deed and mortgage, my husbands is not. I was financially very secure for most of our marriage and I paid for everything and my father paid for a lot as well. My father never lived with me in the house though. After my mother became ill he wanted to but I have 2 Pit Bulls and he is not too comfortable around them. We lost our family business and I have been struggling since. I bought a boutique last Jan. and borrowed the $ from my dad. The store being retail was not a good investment and I pulled out. I now am in debt for a lot of money and owe my father the money he lent me as I might not ever get paid back from my partner in the store.. things are awful here at home. My husband is demanding his share of this home, as I have to sell it because I cant afford it anymore and my father wants out as well. My husband is now claiming that we have been separated sine he received my lawyers letters and at which time I was not in so much debt. He said he is going to see a lawyer and that he is entitled to not only 50% of my half but can come after my dads half as well. So one minute we are separated and then just a while ago we weren't and that is why he doesn’t have to leave or can do anything he wants. Can he have it both ways? I know I cant and I am being punished for being a good person. I need to sell the home quickly and I have to buy a home as well because I have 2 dogs that he laid on me and of course I love them He is mentally and emotionally stressing me out and is running up the electricity in the garage and doesn’t pay for anything. As well he is a dirty slob and is bringing down the value of the house by just being here. Oh yes last thing, about 2 months ago he said he really wanted to try and make it work and make it up to me . So he actually paid the bills for about 1 month and we tried to make a go of it but he still didn’t move back into the house as I am afraid of him. So. how do I get him out of here . I am prepared to let him get his share but as I see it I have so much debt that he gets to share a well.

Kim Blossom

"The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged
by the way its animals are treated"
-Mahatma Gandhi

Name: Glenda New Member

If he's abusive, get a 50-b. Call the magistrate and he/she can explain what this is. Then get a lawyer.