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Name: JAJ   Title: Divorce and adult children

I recently met a wonderful man, he has been divorced for a year and lives with his 22 y.o. son. Should his son be mature enough at this stage to except that his Father is dating someone? His son also has a newly diagnosed bone cancer in one of his legs and I understand why he should need his fathers attention. Any ideas out their. I'm a little confused, I don't want to feel like I'm being hidden like dirty laundry! How much time should I give this?

Name: rajesh New Member

well jaj i can say that i am really sad to read all thaes lets pray to god.......
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Name: maddysmith New Member

Hi JAJ
It's a high road a parent must take in order to keep their children's welfare first and foremost in mind when going through a divorce. It's a "big" parent who will hold his or her tongue regarding the other parent in conversation with their adult children if it is "really" about "you" rather than them. Sadly, I don't think there are enough mature parents who will actually practice this, I'm sure there are some, those children are the better for it.
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Name: maddysmith New Member

Hi JAJ
It's a high road a parent must take in order to keep their children's welfare first and foremost in mind when going through a divorce. It's a "big" parent who will hold his or her tongue regarding the other parent in conversation with their adult children if it is "really" about "you" rather than them. Sadly, I don't think there are enough mature parents who will actually practice this, I'm sure there are some, those children are the better for it.

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Name: Jewel

Dad needs to be honest with you and children no matter what age, or situation. I would not date anyone who needed to hide me. There are lots of wonderful men who would be proud to show you off to all their friends and family .

Name: JAJ

madalex, You are correct. Sometimes in the heat of the moment we can't see the forrest for the trees. JAJ

Name: madalex Member

Whether his son should be mature enough or not is really irrelevant. If dad doesn't want his son to know you two are dating, you have two choices: (a) deal with it like a mature adult, or (b) stop dating dad. It's not your decision otherwise.